A little while ago a close friend asked my advice on how to initiate a discussion with her husband about some of her erotic fantasies - without completely shocking him. Now I've always been a big movie fan, and without thinking I rattled off the names of about 20 or 30 mainstream movies that I have found arousing or stimulating in some way, and suggested they try watching one together.

Watching a movie with erotic undertones can be a great way to 'test the waters' if you've been having secret fantasies. It allows you to quietly observe your lover's reaction, provides a perfect context to begin a discussion, and, if the 'water' is warm enough, who knows where it may lead ...